Lucas (Name changed for privacy) is a bright and inquisitive boy who previously enjoyed soccer and building Lego. He lives with his parents and younger sister. Over the past year, his interest in offline activities has dwindled as his engagement with video games and YouTube has intensified.
Presenting Issues:
- Excessive Screen Time: Spending 6+ hours daily on devices outside of schoolwork, often sacrificing sleep and meals.
- Emotional Dysregulation: Intense anger and "meltdowns" when asked to turn off devices, including throwing the controller or shouting at parents.
- Social Withdrawal: Refusing to attend soccer practice or family outings, preferring to stay in his room to game online.
The Challenge
Lucas’s parents felt like they were losing their son to a screen. What began as a way to unwind after school had spiraled into a compulsion that dictated the family's schedule.
Impact at Home & School:
- At Home: The atmosphere was tense. Every transition away from a screen resulted in a battle. Lucas’s sleep was suffering, leading to irritability and fatigue during the day. His relationship with his sister had deteriorated as he no longer wanted to play with her.
- At School: Teachers noted that Lucas seemed tired and distracted. His grades were slipping, and he was less engaged with his peers during recess, often talking only about video games.
- Health: Lucas had gained weight due to inactivity and was complaining of frequent headaches and eye strain.
We were terrified of the 'detox' weekend, but it was the best thing we ever did. We saw our son come back to us. He laughed, he played, and he didn't ask for his iPad once. It gave us hope that we could turn this around.
daar Therapy Approach
Lucas’s family contacted daar for support. We implemented a positive behaviour support plan focused on creating a balanced digital diet and re-engaging Lucas in the real world.
Key Interventions Implemented:
- Family Media Plan: We helped the family create a "Tech Agreement" that set clear boundaries, such as no screens during meals or one hour before bed. This was framed as a family health goal, not a punishment for Lucas.
- The "Digital Detox" Reset: The family committed to a 48-hour screen-free weekend to break the dopamine loop. They spent this time camping, reconnecting with nature and each other.
- Behavioural Activation: We worked with Lucas to identify offline activities he used to enjoy. We scheduled "green time" (outdoor play) and "creative time" (Lego) before any "screen time" could be earned.
- Token Economy: Lucas earned screen time minutes by completing daily responsibilities (homework, chores, walking the dog). This shifted screens from a "right" to a "privilege."
Results and Progress
Over three months, the shift from unrestricted access to structured, mindful usage transformed Lucas’s daily life.
Measurable Improvements:
- Reduced Screen Time: Daily recreational screen time dropped from 6+ hours to a manageable 1.5 hours on weekdays.
- Improved Emotional Regulation: Meltdowns over device removal have ceased. Lucas now sets his own timer and turns off the console independently 90% of the time.
- Re-engagement: Lucas has returned to soccer practice and has started a new Lego project with his dad.
- Better Sleep: With the removal of screens before bed, Lucas is falling asleep faster and waking up refreshed.
Key Outcomes
Lucas’s story highlights that child behaviour and progress in the digital age requires proactive management.
- Balanced Lifestyle: Lucas has rediscovered the joy of offline hobbies, leading to better physical and mental health.
- Family Connection: The removal of constant digital distraction has opened up space for conversation and shared activities.
- Self-Control: Lucas is learning to manage his own usage, a critical skill for his future.
Conclusion
Technology is a wonderful tool, but it makes a poor master. Lucas’s journey proves that it is possible to break the cycle of digital addiction and restore balance to your home. Socialised behaviour therapy can provide the structure and support needed to make this change.
If you are worried about your child's screen time or device dependency, daar can help. Our evidence-based strategies empower families to take back control.
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